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A Matter of PRIDE

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God hates all sin but pride is right up there with idolatry and sexual immorality. Corey Worrell, A familiar strangerMay 5 Nation Newspaper

Submitted by Charles Knighton

Children, as well as many adults, would certainly find themselves thoroughly nonplussed upon reading the above, particularly so as they reside in a nation whose motto is “Pride and Industry” (“Humble and Industrious lacks a certain panache). Those who rail on about the so-called “sin” of pride, need to explain themselves thoroughly.

Pride lives a double life as hero and villain. It is condemned as a deadly sin one minute, promoted as an essential virtue the next. It is blamed for making people haughty and arrogant, and praised for enabling the oppressed to stand tall. It’s good to take pride in your work, but bad to be too proud of what you have achieved. The desire to have something to be proud of is a very common feature of being human. A lack of it is a real cause of unhappiness and dissatisfaction. But it’s important to reflect on what pride means to avoid ending up with an unhelpful manifestation of it, or overlooking things we could legitimately be proud of.

The most common source of pride is having done great things, widely acknowledged to be achievements. But perhaps more than things, we should be proud of the effort we’ve made to bring something about, somehow exceeding ourselves, regardless of how big or small the results. A person who manages to complete a degree while working full-time and raising young children, for instance, has as much right to feel pride as someone who has created a business empire.

We could also be proud of performing a task with care and attention, to the best of our ability, irrespective of how arduous it is or how much appreciation we are likely to get for it. In this case our pride is not a judgment about how brilliant we are, but instead concerns our approach to the work to be done.

This kind of pride in how we do things, in our effort or attitude, is positive and always available to us. Being proud of what we are, on the other hand, is static and can easily lead to vanity, to overestimating ourselves and discounting the role other people, or just plain luck, has played in our lives.

It is when we are excessively proud of being something, and become too attached to an idea of ourselves, that we become unable to acknowledge weaknesses, dependence and imperfection. We talk of someone being “a proud person”, who can’t recognize mistakes or ask for help. It is this kind of pride we need most to guard against.

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14 Comments on “A Matter of PRIDE”

  1. David May 14, 2016 at 7:48 AM #

    A matter of pride.

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  2. Alvin Cummins May 14, 2016 at 9:36 AM #

    Barbados has many things to be proud of, especially after fifty years of Independence, when we started out with nothing.

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  3. David May 14, 2016 at 9:42 AM #

    @Alvin

    The problem with almost all of your perspective on issues is the density of the nebulosity you spread around. Because some of us critique positions it does not mean we do not care or recognize achievements. In fact it is because we care that we exercise our right of free thinking to engage on where we see opportunities for improvement. Your one eye perspective will always encourage others to question your sincerity and or capacity to engage in critical thinking.

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  4. millertheanunnaki May 14, 2016 at 10:24 AM #

    @ Alvin Cummins May 14, 2016 at 9:36 AM #
    “Barbados has many things to be proud of, especially after fifty years of Independence, when we started out with nothing.”

    Started out with nothing what!! Blasted Liar, you are!!

    Lies, Lies and more lies! Why don’t you shut your lying trap?

    It is precisely because Barbados had good social and physical infrastructure prior to its independence that not only was it given without a struggle (very rarely depended on grant-in-aid funding under colonial rule as it so desperately does today on foreign aid).

    The country was classified as the No.1 developing nation placing 20th on the 1992 UN world development index.
    Do you think that the fast disappearing claim of 98% literacy and relatively good longevity rates because of its primary health care and public health system came about just because of independence 50 years go?

    The country was always well known for its well-managed primary education system with the likes of Rawle Parkinson (you remember him from the Tuskegee Institute, don’t you ole timer?) playing a leading role in promoting Barbados as a centre of education and training excellence.

    The socio-economic benefits accruing to Barbados’s development were far more widespread prior to 1966 than what pertains today with so-many educated jackasses who received free university education but left their commonsense in primary school.

    Look at the state of public administration and tell us which is better. The public service of your time when mostly 7th standard boys and girls were making things work or today with every man-jack holding a piece of UWI paper and can’t even wipe their own ass properly?

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  5. Brathwaite May 14, 2016 at 10:47 AM #

    What BU has described is a stain for all the frigging educated folk involved in Caribbean politics. This man Alvin is like any of the educated yardies in Jamaica who used the exact assholery thinking to divide their country into warring-gun-carrying-addled brain political coneys. That is effing depressing.

    Smart peeps who does excel in Amurka or Canada but on them home islands dus maintain a effed-up tribal political mentality and refuse to see past their nose unless it done by them party.

    Them is the Yardies that should really be exterminated like the leeches and humbugging pests that they are.

    If you gine be a leech then yah gotsta suck out the bad pestilence from the body politic whedder its JLP assholery, PNP foolishness or our local BeeDee shite.

    You can’t effing pick and choose when to be a sucker for all’s that bad.

    Them yardies like Alvin love to suck only what them likes.

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  6. Gabriel May 14, 2016 at 11:08 AM #

    Alvin
    You continue to write with a sensitivity unheard of among your octogenarian compatriots in particular and fellow Bajans in general.You would better be described as a dangerous,dim witted,deluded menace and possessed of an adled brain.Talk of bias!This guy is a lunatic,fit to be committed…..

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  7. Well Well & Consequences May 14, 2016 at 11:24 AM #

    http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/brooklyn-susannah-mushatt-jones-oldest-woman-dies-age-116-article-1.2635657

    Real pride..unparalleled, unless you too can live to be 116 years..live thriugh 3 centuries.

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  8. Simple Simon May 14, 2016 at 10:31 PM #

    @David May 14, 2016 at 9:42 AM “The problem with almost all of your perspective on issues is the density of the nebulosity you spread around. ”

    Dear David: What does this mean in standard English or standard Bajan?
    And “no” I don’t have a piece of UWI paper.

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  9. Lee May 15, 2016 at 1:22 PM #

    “Poor, Pious, Peaceful and Polite” should be Barbados’ new motto.

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  10. David May 15, 2016 at 7:34 PM #

    @Simple Simon

    #rhetoricalquestion

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  11. Bush Tea May 15, 2016 at 8:16 PM #

    There is no real mystery to Alvin….
    He is just an idiot.
    All are welcome on BU…

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  12. Alvin Cummins May 17, 2016 at 8:22 AM #

    @Miller David and Simple simon.;
    My statement “when we started with nothing…” must be the portion of my contribution that has raised your ire; It cannot be that “Barbados has many things to be proud of’, because you certainly cannot, in good conscience disagree with that part. SO LET US EXAMINE WHAT I SAID.
    “WE STARTED WITH NOTHING. In the Transportation Sector. The last bus to any country district left town at ten thirty…after the movie at the Empire or Olympic theatres.
    their bus stand was on Marhill Street or out in Fairchild Street. We are talking about pre 1966. Bus service was irregular and privately owned. If you missed the last bus and lived in St. George, St Philip, St. Peter,or even St. James; (the last bus ran to Walmer Lodge (in the Area of the University Roundabout) dog dead!. You had to WALK HOME.In the health system; at that time the General Hospital had only recently fallen under government control, but it did not have the range of services it achieved after Independence. I know because I worked there from 1952. Have you ever heard of MARASMUS? Ask GP. this was rampant in the island at the time. Have you ever heard of people walking around with “pumps” in their mouths? That is where these people because of a lack of CLCIUM in their diets develop white lesions in the corners of their mouths. That was a common occurrence. There were no Polyclinics or Ambulance services et. The only people who had money were the Plantation Owners and the Roebuck Street and Broad street store owners.Work for BLACK workers was restricted to the fields, the wharf; as lightermen and labourers,if you could get a job.If you manages to get a job the wages were extremely low. Do you know about people having to go to the Park, to get food on a daily basis? Do you know of people on a Saturdasy standing in front of Johnson and
    Redman Bakery waiting for the owner to throw a few pennies from the window?
    People like you would always say that I have no credibility, because they do not know. Fortunately I AM OLD ENOUGH TO HAVE LIVED THROUGH THOSE DAYS AND I CAN THEREFORE SPEAK WITH AUTHORITY ON WHAT WE WERE LIKE before and after iNDEPENDENCE.YOU WOULD DEFEND THE BEHAVIOUR OF THOSE WHO TOOK THE MONEY OF THE POOR PEOPLE OUT OF THE BANK AND fled to austrslia, new zealand, canada,and england. The country became almost bankrupt. I could give you chapter and verse, but people have a short attention span so they would not want to hear about these things.
    When BARBADOS WAS PLACED 20TH ON THE DEVELOPMENT INDEX WAS 26 YEARS ATER INDEPENDENCE. This was not due to any legacy left by the Colonial Masters, but after the social infrastructure had been in place for all that time.
    DON’T ACCUSE ME OF LIES. I SPEAK THE TRUTH AND AM NOT BEING HYPOCRITICAL. YOU JUST REFUSE TO SPEAK IT.

    (To be continued)

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  13. Alvin Cummins May 17, 2016 at 8:33 AM #

    George Brathwaite,
    I am surprised and disappointed in you. I know you know the history of Barbados. Tell it like it was, not tinged by obvious bias. My mother always told me “Speak the truth and speak it ever” ” For the truth you can be blamed, but never made ashamed”. I have always been proud of my mother. She also told me “Because you are poor does not mean you must show it. Even if your shoes have holes in the bottom, they must be shined to look like they are new. You will be the only one who knows it.
    Tell it like it was. We had nothing!! Seventh standard was the limit. Secondary school if you could afford to pay. University was a distant dream. Jobs restricted to clerical positions;if you could get one. No BLACK people employed in the Bank, unless as a messenger. Hard to believe today that is why you would say I have no credibility.

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