Pornography is now easily available to all school children who have access to a tablet or a smart phone. It is facilitated by persons who allow unrestricted access to the Internet in their homes or at the many Wi-Fi hotspots around Barbados. So let me share a solution; but first, let me describe the problem.
Pornography has two main damaging effects. The impact for viewers is that that they can primarily view sexual intercourse as a means to satisfy themselves rather than satisfying their partners. For male viewers, this can lead to a less satisfying sexual experience for her and a boring routine for him. He will likely develop an uncaring attitude towards her if she does not express a similar delight in his sexual performance as those whom he watches. His sexual experience should be all about satisfying her, and her sexual experience should be all about satisfying him.
The most damaging impact is on the victims whom the watchers are viewing. Many women, especially from Asian and eastern European countries, are forced into the sex slave trade, with harsh consequences if they do not show delight when raped (See Half the Sky and other research into sex slavery). As the watchers view these victims, they are supporting and sustaining this slavery. If people choose not to pay to view pornography on the Internet, then they still support and sustain the sex slave trade by adding to the web sites’ page views, which increases their potential advertising revenues.
Submitted by Keep It Real (and clean)
Roy Morris – Editor in Chief, Nation Newspaper
I am waiting with bated breath to see a page-one comment from either the Publisher or the Editor in Chief of the Nation newspaper denouncing, in the strongest possible terms, its own journalistic faux-pas (I am being kind) committed in today’s Sun on Saturday.
None of us, not even the most perverted person, would have expected that that tabloid would have sunk further into the depths of depravity and lewdness, especially after the recent appointment of “people of impeccable character”.
Perhaps, such erotic journalism can be easily explained-away since many in society, including some people in our most noble professions, have had to wrestle with their own amoral feelings, as they try to overcome an obsessive propensity for pornography and predatory exploits, while simultaneously fighting the said sexual appetite and their rapaciously philandering demons.
Submitted by Charles Knighton
Popping pills to enhance sexual performance
The back page of the October 27 Saturday Sun featured the article “Sex high” which asserts that “Barbadian men, both young and old, are popping pills daily to get an erection and to enhance their sexual performance.” However, the esoteric nature of the popular brand names such as Black Mountain Ants, Kamagra, African Black Ants and African Red Ants leave the uninitiated nonplussed.
A product’s intended function or purpose should be made clear by its brand name. My suggestion is that all such products henceforth fall under the generic rubric “peniscillin”.
Submitted by islandgal246
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A 2003 study by Scott Coltrane, a sociology professor at the University of California, Riverside, linked fathers’ housework to more feelings of warmth and affection in their wives. And a survey of 288 husbands, reported in Neil Chethik’s 2006 book “VoiceMale,” linked a wife’s satisfaction with the division of household duties with her husband’s satisfaction with their sex life.
One husband, Mr. Chethik says in an interview, reported that his wife enjoyed flowers or a candlelit dinner out; but “if he wants to be sure of a romantic evening, he goes for the vacuum cleaner.”
Other research supports the “work hard, play hard” thesis. Janet Hyde, a professor of psychology and women’s studies at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, has found that it doesn’t lead to less intimacy in marriage when wives hold paid jobs.
“Some people are high-energy people, and others are not very high-energy,” she says. Those who like juggling a lot of roles are often energized by the process, she says. “Work hard, play hard” may not work for everybody, but there is certainly a group for whom it does work.”
Submitted by Sargeant
It’s a long weekend and people will be making merry in the streets and between the sheets. Speaking of sheets here is a fascinating case and since BU is home to many legal experts – some with formal training and the majority trained at the “school of hard knocks”- I thought that I’d bring it to their attention to get feedback on an interesting legal argument.
Seems an Australian woman who was travelling on a work assignment decided to get it on with an acquaintance at the motel where she was staying, while they were playing “hide the sausage” the light fixture fell off the ceiling onto her face causing injuries to her mouth and nose.
Now her lawyer is appealing a ruling from the Workmen’s Compensation Board which denied her claim for compensation for the injury. It seems that the claim hinged on the fact that she was travelling on business and “sex is an ordinary lawful incident of life”.
Well you can read the rest….
Submitted by Peltdownman
Charles Leacock, Director of Public Prosecutors
In what is a quite unbelievable development for a country that aspires to be “developed”, the Director of Public Prosecutions (DPP) has stated that because a woman refused sex to a man who was virtually blackmailing her, she was, in fact, “provoking” him and his subsequent act of beating her to death could not be considered murder.
Does this now mean that any time that a man, having reasonable expectations that he might have sex with a woman, can now beat her to death if she refuses, and not be charged with murder? The DPP has declared open season on women in Barbados. I wonder what his wife thinks.
The prophets lie and the priest takes bribes and the people like it so – Jeremiah 5:30
The Moral Failures of the Ancient World destroyed by a Flood were as follows:
• Preoccupation with physical appetites (Luke 17:27)
• Rapid advances in technology (Gen. 4:22)
• Uniformitarian philosophies (Heb. 11:7; 2 Pet 3:4)
• Inordinate devotion to pleasure and comfort (Gen. 4:21)
• No concern for God in either belief or conduct (2 Pet. 2:4; Jude 15)
• Disregard for the sacredness for the marriage relationship (Matt. 24:38)
• Rejection for the inspired Word of God (1 Pet. 3:19)
• Population explosion (Gen. 6:1,11)
• Corruption throughout society (Gen. 6:12)
• Preoccupation with illicit sexual activity (Gen. 4:19; 6:2)
• Widespread thoughts and words of blasphemy (Jude 1:15)
• Organized Satanic activity (Gen. 6:1-4)
• Promotion of systems and movements of abnormal depravity (Gen. 6:5,12)
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that these same moral failures are now pandemic in our own world. Could we be also on the cusp of a momentous fracturing of time which will bring out what has been prophesied so long ago by prophets, seers and messengers?
Below are a few (not even the tip of the iceberg) random examples of what we face as the people of God as we grapple with overwhelming sin and disgrace:
Eddie Long (l) Jimmy Swaggart (c) T.D.Jakes (r)
The prophets lie and the priest takes bribes and the people like it so – Jeremiah 5:30
No man can “TRULY” judge another man – no matter what the circumstances. Yet we’re admonished by the Word that we shall judge (fallen) ‘angels’.
So what is the context here?
As Christians, we go to court over civil matters, domestic issues and over legal matters. As men/women of God, while we’re instructed by the Word to take these matters to our religious/spiritual authorities to whom we believe ought to be spiritual enough to arbitrate over – given the difficult impasse on these matters.
Yet this admonition goes unheeded and the ever-growing spotlight focuses on Christians in a less than complimentary manner.
In the news for the last week, is another scandal of celebrity televangelist Eddie Long who is allegedly being charged with sexual impropriety by  men who claim that he had homosexual relations with them while they were under his spiritual leadership. Whether this is true or it’s a shakedown – time will tell!
Many prominent Christian leaders today have made a deal (a pact) with the devil by attrition. Duped into compliance by a love of “filthy lucre” and tainted by the spirit of Laodicea (rich and increased in goods) yet void of any real true spirituality. The love of worldliness, pomp, pageantry and fanfare ruins the practical godliness men ought to have. So the devil uses our baser passions to gratify the hole that many of have on the inside.
Hence, undercover sex in the modern church is an explosive and ticking time-bomb.
As if non and communicable diseases were not inflicting enough of a dent on our national budget, we are now told to watch-out for another malady to add to the list. Word on the ground supported by media reports paints a sad story that many of our young males are going to the grave in their quest to sexually satisfy their partners. While it is true that young Barbadian men have always had access to sexual stimulants through the years, can we agree that there seem to be an over reliance of late on enhancers to boost sexual performance.
We understand that two of the more popular sexual enhancers on the market are Coffin and Stone. Common sense should dictate that the negative feedback about the use of Coffin and Stone causing users to die would negatively affect sales, not so according to media reports. We see a parallel to tobacco use. Despite all the negative reports and the high price of the product because of government taxes sales remain high.
Why would our young men risk their life by ingesting or applying substances to improve sexual prowess?
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THE DESIRE for “bling” and showy possessions are the two main factors driving the precocious sexual activity among secondary and tertiary school students. Behaviour change consultant to the National HIV/AIDS Commission, Marilyn Sealy, disclosed this and other findings at the commission’s research symposium yesterday at Hilton Barbados. From a three-year study that examined the theme, “Risk Perception And Sexual Practices Among Teenagers In Barbados,” she stated that 85% of the participants interviewed who were between the ages of 15 and 18 were sexually active. The National HIV/AIDS Commission of Barbados, in collaboration with the Ministry of Health, facilitated the whole-day seminar which examined many of the issues dealing with HIV/AIDS in Barbados, and by extension the wider Caribbean community.
“15% cited clothes, money and peer pressure as factors leading to sexual activity . . . . It’s interesting to see how they get their clothes and bus fare for school; sex is a big factor. That’s how they make their money and how their parents pay their bills.” The 2004 study took place during the Crop-Over Festival period where the researchers were present at official events and theme parties. Several risqué photographs taken on site were displayed yesterday highlighting sexually explicit positions and revealing attire. This prompted Sealy to make links between rape and scantily clad women, as well as, the music culture and promiscuity. Sealy also stated that results from the study showed that the level of HIV/AIDS awareness was elevated, but most believed they were exempt from the disease; the notion was it primarily befalls prostitutes or homosexuals.
The investigation also highlighted that, despite the high awareness of the dangers involved, “Barbadian youths continue to practice early sexual initiation, multiple sexual partners and non-use of condoms”. She also spoke to high levels of ignorance surrounding sexual relations. “Their sexual practices were mostly unprotected and included anal, oral, and vaginal sex,” she noted. A lot of young people indicated that if they practiced anal sex then they would remain virgins. They felt their hymen would still be intact, Sealy added.
On the 25th September 2007, BU highlighted the cry by a leading Sexually Transmittal Infection (STI) Specialist in Barbados, Dr.Vijaya Thani. In that article her concerns about the lifestyle behaviour of our teenagers was evident. We continue to be very concern about the inability of the relevant agencies in Barbados to make an impression on our youths. They need to initiate lifestyle changes in order to arrest the spread of HIV and AIDS. We highlighted that the responsibility for HIV/AIDS falls under the portfolio of no less a person than Prime Minister Owen Arthur who took charge in 2001. He has appointed the very eminently qualified Dr. Carol Jacobs who has had access to a World Bank loan of USD15.5 million dollars to disseminate her message. It has now been over 6 years; based on feedback from Dr. Thani and scientific research by Marilyn Sealy – Change Consultant at the National HIV/AIDS Commission our young people continue to engage in sexual behaviour which demonstrates a high order of ignorance. As Barbadians when we reconcile the sexual behavior of our youth to what our authorities would have the world believe that we are an educated people, the great paradox is evident for all Barbadians to ruminate.